The July Record: Afraid and Going Anyway

View of the Chicago skyline from the Chicago River during an architecture boat tour.

Looking back, July felt like a month of doing things a little afraid, a little unprepared, and going anyway. We took our first Amtrak trip and weren’t sure how any of it would go.Tom sent a message to a band we’ve loved for years and didn’t expect anything back.I wrote about two of the hardest … Read more

How to Make the Most of Summer Before It’s Gone

Evening view from a deck overlooking a backyard patio with string lights, flowers, and soft summer lighting.

It’s the last week of July. I just looked at the calendar and realized we’re four days from August. I seem to have this realization every year. Summer always feels longer when it’s ahead of you than when you’re living it. We’ve had a good summer. We took the train to Chicago, went to a … Read more

I Don’t Need the Perfect Version Anymore: Building It Live #10

Tom walking on a neighborhood path with one of the dogs on a summer morning.

Last Tuesday wasn’t the day I planned. Work ran long. I came home tired. The workout I’d mapped out wasn’t going to happen. A few months ago I probably would have skipped it entirely. I’d tell myself I’d do it tomorrow instead. Instead I did a shorter version. And then something hit me. I don’t … Read more

What Are You Training For?

Tom hiking a trail through old-growth redwoods in Jedediah Smith Redwoods State Park, California.

What are you training for? It’s a question I’ve been thinking about differently lately. I don’t exercise because I enjoy every workout. Some of them I enjoy. Most of them I just do. I exercise because I want to keep saying yes. What “Yes” Actually Means Yes to hiking through a national park without having … Read more

Fear Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Do It

Krista Robbins, radiologic technologist, in a hallway at a St. Louis area imaging facility.

The first trauma I was called into, I was afraid. I wasn’t afraid I’d fail. I’d simply never been in a room like that before. Fear doesn’t mean you can’t do it. I know that now. I didn’t know it then. A man who had been shot, bullet lodged in his T-spine. When I got … Read more

Fewer Things Stay in Someday: Building It Live #9

The Fully Lived Framework

Ten weeks in. We missed a weekly update. We didn’t miss the work. We’re Spending Less Time Negotiating The biggest change isn’t that we’re doing more. Before, a busy week usually meant movement disappeared. Now there’s always a smaller version that keeps us going. The decision about what that looks like has already been made. … Read more

It All Stacks — Every Day You’re Building Something

Coffee Outside in the early morning

Almost every morning — or evening, or somewhere in between — there’s a version of the same conversation. Maybe I skip the walk today and just have coffee. Maybe I work on the project tomorrow instead. Maybe we stay home tonight because it’s been a long week. Maybe the dishes can wait. Tomorrow will be … Read more

Nothing Dramatic Happened This Month

This month we built a retaining wall. We were both really busy with work. There were dinners with friends, a cardinals game, walks with the dogs, rounds of mini golf, a movie with Tom and Sam, coffee outside before the day started, and a brunch we almost talked ourselves out of. There were nights I … Read more

Running Behind and Doing It Anyway – Building It Live #8

What surprised me most is that we’re both working on the same module, but almost opposite problems. Tom used to run until he was wiped out. He’d push hard enough that the next couple of days became recovery days. Lately he’s been learning to back off a little, add strength training, and leave enough in … Read more