Stop Living a Life You Never Actually Chose

Jedediah Smith Redwoods State Park — where big trees have a way of putting things in perspective.

I spent years accumulating a life, and then I spent years quietly letting pieces of it go — without ever calling it that. I started as a secretary. Moved through accounting, became a controller, and then — gradually, for reasons that made sense at the time — stepped back. Part-time. Assistant work. Full charge bookkeeping. … Read more

Cannon Beach, Oregon: The One Trip We Keep Coming Back To in Our Minds

We’ve only been to Cannon Beach Oregon once. I think about it more than anywhere we’ve been in the last few years — more than places we’ve returned to multiple times, more than trips that required more planning and more money. There’s something about a place that gets you exactly once, in exactly the right … Read more

The Small Decisions That Make a Week Feel Like Yours (Building It Live #2)

Raised garden beds — the satisfying work that actually got done this week.

Day 8. Module 1, Phase 2 — Ownership. Week two of the solo run. This is part of Building It Live — a weekly dispatch from inside the Fully Lived Framework as we run it on ourselves before the September beta. Start from the beginning here. The question the workbook kept circling back to this … Read more

You Don’t Need Better Goals. You Need a Direction

A tree-lined road stretching forward — finding direction in life one ordinary day at a time.

For most of my adult life, I thought having goals meant I had direction. I always had a list — career goals, health goals, financial goals, trips we kept saying we’d take someday. Some years I hit them. Some years I didn’t. Either way, January would arrive and I’d start over, because that’s what you’re … Read more

What We’re Reading in May (And Why These Four Books at This Particular Moment)

May 2026 Books

May feels like the right month to talk about what’s been on the nightstand — and these four books for midlife readers landed at exactly the right time. Not because I have a reading program or a books-per-month goal. Just because these four have been sitting with me lately and each one hit differently — … Read more

We Weren’t Really Lost. But We Weren’t Quite Found Either. (Building It Live #1)

The Fully Lived Framework

Day 1. Module 1, Phase 1 — Awareness. We opened the workbook last night at the kitchen table and began. Not planning to start. Not talking about starting. Actually opening the pages and doing Day 1. The workbook has been sitting on the desk for a week. I’ve been building the Fully Lived Framework for … Read more

Why I Never Have to Find Motivation in the Morning

Gym Clothes ready to go ... systems>motivation

I don’t find motivation in the morning. I don’t look for it, I don’t wait for it, and I’ve stopped expecting it to show up on its own. What I do instead is remove every possible reason not to move — the night before, while I still have the energy and the intention to do … Read more

The Simple Questions I Stopped Avoiding (And What They Changed)

Moment of Reflection.

I wasn’t in crisis. That’s the thing that made it hard to name. There was no rock bottom, no dramatic moment, no morning I woke up and knew something had to change. Just a quiet, persistent dissatisfaction that I kept moving past — too busy to stop, too uncertain to look directly at it. I … Read more

Our Outdoor Living Favorites To Make Our May Genuinely Better

May is the month the backyard actually becomes part of the house again. Here’s are out outdoor living favorites – everything we’re using to make the most of it — from the garden we skipped last year to the backyard movie nights we’re not skipping this summer. If you’ve been following along here, you know … Read more