Six weeks ago, Tom and I started working through the Framework. Most days, we sit down and answer three prompts. Ten or fifteen minutes. Sometimes less. At this point, it’s simply part of the week. We usually do it together. Compare notes. Talk about whatever comes up. Sometimes the conversation lasts a few minutes. Sometimes longer.
What’s interesting is that we’re not getting the same thing out of it.
Same Practice, Different Results
I asked Tom recently what had changed for him. He said he’s become more aware of how he moves through his days. Where he tends to drift. How a little structure keeps him closer to the life he actually wants instead of just reacting to whatever shows up.
My answer was different. For me, it’s been three things. It helps me find some direction when I don’t have one. It shows me exactly where I get stuck — not the general idea that I get stuck, but the specific place, today, where it happened. And it’s started to normalize the work of choosing my life every day instead of treating that choice as something that happens occasionally, when I remember to.
I’ve known for a long time what I wanted more of in my life. The challenge was never figuring that out. The challenge was acting on it. The daily practice hasn’t given me a new direction. It’s helped me stay connected to the direction I already wanted to go.
Harder to Ignore in a Daily Reflection Practice
It’s harder to ignore things once you’ve been checking in every day. The prompts don’t force an answer, and most days they’re not telling us anything we don’t already know. What they do is make it easier to see the gap between what we say matters and what we’re actually doing with our time and attention.
There’s value in seeing that clearly.
Wrapping Up Module 1
We’re finishing the last week of Module 1 now. Nothing dramatic has happened — same jobs, schedules, responsibilities, interruptions — but there’s been a shift. Tom understands where he drifts and how to find his way back. I’ve gotten more consistent about following through on the things I already said mattered.
Next is Module 2: The Builder. If Module 1 was about paying attention, Module 2 is about doing something with what we noticed. For now, we’re still showing up most days — three prompts, ten or fifteen minutes — and six weeks in, that’s been enough to make a difference.
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